"As you know better than I, he has the ability to take whatever gut
feeling, instinct or woman’s intuition I had and turn it around to make
me feel sorry for him. You were right in your letter, when you said
nothing would change for him, he is still using women. He has used my
home, car, and everything I own without offering a dime to help out. I
have bought him phones, clothes, food, and paid all expenses without so
much as him saying thank you. He recently received some unexpected EDD
money and acted as if he was still broke and let me pay for
everything….”
“It broke my heart to know someone I loved and cared for thought
so little about me. He could talk me into believing him and doing
everything he wanted within minutes, and if I said anything about
anything, I was so verbally abused and manipulated, I just shut down…”
"It is like trying to understand why a scorpion has stung you after
you have loved it like a pet. Why did it sting me? Um, because it is
what it is!"
Just an article worthy of sharing. I found it odd when I left how quickly he had someone else, but later found out that it wasn't as quickly as I thought--she was there all along. None of that hurts these days, thankfully. But I do feel bad for his current and future women and hope they recognize the patterns before they are also destroyed emotionally, physically, and financially. I left the day after Thanksgiving in 2009; by April 2010 a PFA was my only option. Six year later, I am still picking up the pieces and am still left dumbfounded that one simple choice in my life--dating him--led to such overall insanity and destruction. Six years later, the damage is still real.
For those that are still trying to sort through a relationship in their own life--maybe it is a coworker, spouse, friend or even a family member--this is a wonderful little guide to helping you sort out what is occurring. My biggest suggestion? Trust your intuition. It is there for a reason and 9 times out of 10, it will be screaming when you are around one of these folks--10 times out of 10, they will make you believe that YOU are the crazy one for even listening to your intuition... Do it anyway.
