So now my father is not only saying that he saved my life by his actions, but that he also prevented an act similar to the CO theater shooting and the WI Sikh temple shooting. His latest message stated... Ah, screw it... I can't even begin to summarize. It is easier to just lay it out:
"I have no intentions of going back and forth with you on the subject. It is obvious that you don’t want to patch any old hurts and move on and all you want to do is have a fight. I will not participate.
There is an old saying, “those you dwell on and live in the past have no future.” You simply aren’t ever going to find happiness until you lean to move past old hurts. And, you can never make another person happy until you learn to be happy with yourself and who you are.
I do have a few final comments though. The everyone was just that; EVERYONE, both within the family and numerous others. Everyone who had contact with you was concerned about both your physical and emotional health. I know you didn’t and still don’t see it but if your recent communications have done nothing else they have even further convinced me that you blocked out a great deal of what really occurred and somehow came to believe things that did not occur had occurred.
It isn’t required that you have already hurt yourself or others to evoke sufficient concern for vigilant and carrying people to step in and try to avert bad things from happening and that is just what I did.
I went to your house to try to figure out want was going on and you simply shut me out and got mad that I was even asking you questions since you didn’t believe there was anything wrong with you and all of your problems were coming from other people.
I have seen the folly that all to often follows when people miss, ignore or otherwise fail to take action when others are sending warning signs, and you were sending lots of warning signs. A few weeks ago in Colorado over a dozen people died, several dozen more were wounded and hundreds of people had their lives simply torn apart because of a guy sending warning signs, who otherwise appeared perfectly normal, after they failed to act on the warning signs they saw. A little over a week ago a guy in Wisconsin killed several people after his friends and family failed to act on the warning signs he was showing. Those things are happening every day somewhere so people sticking their heads in the sand and hoping it isn’t going to happen in their world of existence is simply foolish.
You see it isn’t, nor should it be, required that you wait until a person has already hurt themselves or others to evoke sufficient concern for vigilant and carrying people to step in and try to avert the potential for bad things happening…. and that is just what I did. Would you have gone over the deep end and hurt yourself? I don’t know, I would like to think not but I am sure the families of the Colorado, Wisconsin and thousands of others that lost loved ones because they or someone else failed to see or act on warning signs sure wish now that it is too late they hadn’t ignored the signs they saw. The real sad part and failure in the system comes when the professionals fail to recognize the warnings and don’t get the person the help they needed even after they end up in front of them because they were displaying such warning signs.
As I have repeatedly said, you are the only one that can decide when your hatred and bitterness has been enough. But, I can tell you that I learned a long, long time ago that hatred and bitterness are both things that hurt the person harboring them and if kept long enough they will destroy ay potential one has for happiness. And, no one is happy with a person who isn’t happy within him or her self. Hate or happiness isn’t something other give you or take from you, they come form within based on what you choose to live with.
Get touch with me if or when you should one day decide you want to forgive and get beyond the past. But, if isn’t doing anyone any good, and is only going to cause more harm, to keep dragging the same old hurts around and beating them back and forth. So, I don’t plan on doing the back and forth of the same old issues over and over and will not respond to them in the future.
So, how have you been and what is going on with your life now?"
There is an old saying, “those you dwell on and live in the past have no future.” You simply aren’t ever going to find happiness until you lean to move past old hurts. And, you can never make another person happy until you learn to be happy with yourself and who you are.
I do have a few final comments though. The everyone was just that; EVERYONE, both within the family and numerous others. Everyone who had contact with you was concerned about both your physical and emotional health. I know you didn’t and still don’t see it but if your recent communications have done nothing else they have even further convinced me that you blocked out a great deal of what really occurred and somehow came to believe things that did not occur had occurred.
It isn’t required that you have already hurt yourself or others to evoke sufficient concern for vigilant and carrying people to step in and try to avert bad things from happening and that is just what I did.
I went to your house to try to figure out want was going on and you simply shut me out and got mad that I was even asking you questions since you didn’t believe there was anything wrong with you and all of your problems were coming from other people.
I have seen the folly that all to often follows when people miss, ignore or otherwise fail to take action when others are sending warning signs, and you were sending lots of warning signs. A few weeks ago in Colorado over a dozen people died, several dozen more were wounded and hundreds of people had their lives simply torn apart because of a guy sending warning signs, who otherwise appeared perfectly normal, after they failed to act on the warning signs they saw. A little over a week ago a guy in Wisconsin killed several people after his friends and family failed to act on the warning signs he was showing. Those things are happening every day somewhere so people sticking their heads in the sand and hoping it isn’t going to happen in their world of existence is simply foolish.
You see it isn’t, nor should it be, required that you wait until a person has already hurt themselves or others to evoke sufficient concern for vigilant and carrying people to step in and try to avert the potential for bad things happening…. and that is just what I did. Would you have gone over the deep end and hurt yourself? I don’t know, I would like to think not but I am sure the families of the Colorado, Wisconsin and thousands of others that lost loved ones because they or someone else failed to see or act on warning signs sure wish now that it is too late they hadn’t ignored the signs they saw. The real sad part and failure in the system comes when the professionals fail to recognize the warnings and don’t get the person the help they needed even after they end up in front of them because they were displaying such warning signs.
As I have repeatedly said, you are the only one that can decide when your hatred and bitterness has been enough. But, I can tell you that I learned a long, long time ago that hatred and bitterness are both things that hurt the person harboring them and if kept long enough they will destroy ay potential one has for happiness. And, no one is happy with a person who isn’t happy within him or her self. Hate or happiness isn’t something other give you or take from you, they come form within based on what you choose to live with.
Get touch with me if or when you should one day decide you want to forgive and get beyond the past. But, if isn’t doing anyone any good, and is only going to cause more harm, to keep dragging the same old hurts around and beating them back and forth. So, I don’t plan on doing the back and forth of the same old issues over and over and will not respond to them in the future.
So, how have you been and what is going on with your life now?"
So what is there to say? And is there a reason to bother???
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